The essence of your emotional being is a product of your feelings and perceptions which affects your state of resonance with others, and so within yourself are many mental pictures and concepts in the fields of self-judgment from others and your uncompleted processing within yourself.
This is your learning on earth to master, what you identify with and what you need to master by letting go of misinformation that is not you.
You are living in a world of many perceivers and dreamers looking for concepts and understanding about themselves. Everyone has secret pains and memories of rejection and hurt in the art they trying to resolve from the many projections and missiles that have embedded into the roots of their self-imagery.
Pain is a recollection of rejection and a stuck position that has caused disconnection and fractures from your emotional bodies. Consciousness and emotion without the mental overview just want to feel and be a presence. You term this innocence and this is what you are born with. When you first incarnate you are vulnerable and are trying to understand life in your new emotional body and striving for spiritual maturity or growth.
Because of the melodramas and density of pain and suffering on the planet life causes imbalances in the psyche that need repair. The heart and soul cry for its family and friends to try to grasp and understand what it is going through. If you are lucky enough to find your own voice and grasp information about the painful unwarranted circumstances this goes a long way toward completing the cycles of these pains and bringing them into resolution. Unresolved storms of pains and memory become the shadows of yourself in other people and social situations.
Earthbound people with matching pictures of events in their life will be specifically be triggered and unconsciously react to you which become perpetuating dramas of emotional hurts that are states of charge still running. That is why these patterns are the same because they are fractal energies that need healing and review.
Other people will react and hold you to the light that you are within the subconscious. In order to heal, you have to unplug the cords and perpetuable behaviours and learn to find the issues of your inner pains, and this is the process of healing in order to be free of pain, suffering, fear and mental judgment.