SEX is for love and connection with the one you love, not an instrument of manipulation, vanity and false purpose. There lies the hatred for each gender and the misidentification of nature and deceit of its real power. Mixed messages can lose real love in the translation.
Sex without the wanting to connect with the mind and soul of the loved one is a road to pain and suffering generated by lust and illusion. Understand the fires and their place in your life, for if not you will burn, scar and blister in your perceptions of the power of sexual union.
Seek the path of truth and real connection in your unions with others. Harness the fires in the crucible of love so that the dross of loneliness unites you to union and connection with another.