Who are you talking to when you are speaking to people? Are you talking to yourself? Are you projecting yourself or in general mode of communication to the other? Oftentimes the communication with others has nothing to do with wanting them to hear you. You are just projecting noise so that you can think you can hear yourself.
If you are falling into this illusion it is best to open your ears and connect with yourself and listen. All too many people project onto others to hear what they need to hear in themselves. The beginning of enlightenment starts with the journey of communication within yourself to what it is you want to say, know, and to achieve.
A lot of communication is out of balance because people are not looking to communicate but only soundboard onto others. When you wish to connect with people you learn to listen to them and share communication with interest. All of this is by knowing what it is you want to know. Learn the habits of self-speak so that you can address a reconnection to yourself directly.
In all that you do be responsible for yourself in your best abilities for this is the strength in a grounded soul made manifest in human flesh.